AHACodependency

Self-reflection

Codependency Self-Assessment

This quiz is a self-reflection tool for educational purposes. It does not diagnose any condition and is not medical advice.

If you are in immediate danger or experiencing abuse, consider contacting local emergency services or a trusted support resource.

Scale0 = Never1 = Rarely2 = Sometimes3 = Often4 = Almost always

Over the last 6-12 months, how true is each statement?

  1. I feel responsible for other people's emotions.
  2. I have trouble saying no, even when I want to.
  3. I often put my needs last to avoid conflict.
  4. I worry a lot about being disliked or abandoned.
  5. I over-explain or try to "prove" my point to be understood.
  6. I feel guilty when I set boundaries.
  7. I try to fix, manage, or rescue people close to me.
  8. I ignore red flags because I hope things will improve.
  9. I feel anxious when someone I care about is upset with me.
  10. I "earn" love through helping, doing, or being useful.
  11. I struggle to identify what I feel in the moment.
  12. I stay in relationships longer than is healthy out of loyalty or fear.
  13. I compromise my values to keep peace.
  14. I take things personally and replay conversations in my head.
  15. I feel more focused on others than on my own goals.
  16. I avoid asking for help, but I am quick to help others.
  17. I feel uneasy when things are calm, like something must be wrong.
  18. I fear being "too much" or "not enough."
  19. I feel responsible for keeping the relationship stable.
  20. When I am stressed, I neglect sleep, health, or basic self-care.