Recovery promises

12 Promises of Recovery from Codependency

These promises describe changes people may experience through honest, steady work in recovery from codependency.

I can expect an astounding change in my life by working a program of recovery from codependency. As I make an honest effort to work the Twelve Steps:

  1. I know a new sense of belonging. The feelings of emptiness and loneliness will disappear.
  2. I am no longer controlled by my fears. I overcome my fears and act with courage and integrity.
  3. I know a new freedom.
  4. I release myself from worry, guilt, and regret about my past and present. I am aware enough not to repeat it.
  5. I know a new love and acceptance of myself and others. I feel genuinely lovable, loving, and loved.
  6. I learn to see myself as equal to others. My new and renewed relationships are all with equal partners.
  7. I am capable of developing and maintaining healthy and loving relationships. The need to control and manipulate others will disappear as I learn to trust those who are trustworthy.
  8. I learn that it is possible for me to mend, to become more loving, intimate, and supportive. I have the choice of communication with my family in a way which is safe for me and respectful of them.
  9. I recognize that this is my life to live and accept responsibility for my own happiness.
  10. I no longer need to rely solely on others to provide my sense of worth.
  11. I come to believe in my own capabilities.
  12. I gradually experience serenity, strength, and growth in my daily life.

Promises 1-8, 10, and 12 were taken from CoDA. Promises 9 and 11 were reworked to be suitable for all people.